Connect With Kids: Why Kids Want To Spend More Time With Their Parents

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Connect With Kids: Why Kids Want To Spend More Time With Their Parents

August 4, 2010 Updated Aug 4, 2010 at 2:52 PM CDT

Moody, short-tempered, isolated, all words that are used to describe a typical teenager.

But according to a new survey of teenagers by family circle, beneath that angst-ridden facade is a kid who wants to be with the very people he or she is pushing away.

Barbara Reyelts has more in this week's Connect with kids.

Like many teens, Reid plays video games, loves music, spends time by himself...

But there's something he said that may surprise you...

"I think it be cool if my parents worked less, just because I'd get to see them more."

In fact, in a recent survey, seventy percent of teens said they were happy with how much attention they get from their parents...
And nearly twenty-five percent wished they could spend more time together.

Experts say, to some parents, this number may come as a shock.

"I think sometimes, teenagers behavior, how they act, what they do, is different from what they think and feel. And that might throw parents off a little bit."

She says isolation, mood swings, and wanting to spend more time with friends, is all a part of growing up...but ...

"Parents take that as, 'I don't want to have anything to do with you', which is not necessarily the case, it's just that they're trying, the teenager is trying to find a balance between being independent, but yet still being a part of the family."

So, how do you get your teen to enjoy spending time with you?
Experts say the answer is simple.

"Take the teenagers suggestions, you know, 'what would you like to do?'"

"We try and pick things that we all will enjoy and we have a very similar taste in things, we watch television together, go to sporting events together, we like the same music, we all cook together."
Reid says having these common interests definitely helps his relationship with his parents.

"We can all agree on one thing to do and we have fun doing it. Someone isn't hating it and three other people are liking it- we all like it."