Posted by Melissa Burlaga
Duluth, MN (Northland's NewsCenter) Working mothers wrestle with plenty of guilt about the time spent away from their kids.
But new research from the University of California reassures us that the kids are all right.
In fact, for some families, having mom on the job provides opportunities and role modeling that's better for the children.
Barbara Reyelts has more in this week's connect with kids report.
Lisa is a working mom who spends long hours away from home, away from her teenagers.
"She calls a lot."
"Like every half an hour, hour or so-make sure we answer the phone."
"I know where they are. I know who they hang with- all their phone numbers, I've met their parents."
Lisa keeps tabs because she worries like many working mothers.
"Alcohol, drugs, sex those are three main things. But basically, parents worry that their teenagers are going to really experiment with some dangerous things if they're not there in the afternoon."
But new research from the University of California finds that for some families, having mom on the job is a very good thing.
The added income that reduces the child's stress provides opportunities and a positive role model.
And teens aren't more likely to engage in risky behavior just because their mothers work long hours.
"Having boundaries and rules--it's a good thing to set you on track."
A key deterrent is how involved a mother is, how many questions she asks about friends, activities, behavior and the clear limits she sets.
"That's a comforting thing for kids. They may say it's aggravating, but they also know that number one, they can't get by with much because they're gonna be checked up on and number two, their parent really cares about them."
Lisa's kids say her "checking up" keeps them on the "straight and narrow" because they know if they do get in trouble.